Dance and romance - ugh, I wish both were easier!
Classes are going good, even though 2 days ago I had to hold back the urge to tell Felipe to shove his cane where the sun don't shine. You see, he had us try an exercise to work on our posture, and when I tried it, I had a little trouble with it and he said "eres difícil" - you're difficult. Never in my life has any dance teacher ever described me as "difficult". It made me feel as if I were a slow learner or that I was like those people who audition for So You Think You Can Dance and think they're good but suck (and don't realize it till the judges tell them they're terrible). Didn't he see the look on my face that made it obvious I was trying to get it right? Geez, sorry I'm not a prodigy like you, Mr. Perfect. Ugh... And if he makes one more comment about me sticking my ass out too much (I'm trying to correct that too, but I think he could be a little more tactful when telling me), I will have to fight back the urge to say "well then, kiss my ass, why don't ya?!"
Anyway, at my next class with Lourdes, I asked her if my dancing was ok, and she said yes and I said "Felipe said I'm difficult..." and she gave me some constructive criticism, which I appreciate. She told me to remember to keep my back and shoulders in the right position. That's what I prefer - constructive criticism helps me to see what I'm doing wrong and do something to correct it. Comments like "you're difficult" make me feel like I can't do anything right. But things are going better in class now. I make more effort to get things right and I don't think Felipe hates me anymore!
I went to the flamenco dance museum a few days ago, and liked it. The admission price was a little too much for such a small museum (10 Euros, yikes! I paid less than that to get into bigger museums!) but it was cool. I also bought a book at the gift shop there called "Flamenco - an Englishman's Passion" and it was written by a British man who loves flamenco. I'll probably start reading it soon.
Tomorrow, I'm going to El Rocío. I'll take the bus there. I figure I can either camp out like most of the people, or if I can't handle it, I can take the bus back to town, sleep in my apartment, then head back on Sunday. I'm definitely staying overnight on Sunday night/Monday morning because it's at sunrise that they'll take the statue out of the shrine and parade it around. I bought a pair of boots to wear, and they were much cheaper than I expected. I normally would expect a pair of quality leather boots to be a lot more than 55 Euros! Frig, my flamenco shoes cost twice more than that...
I'm really confused by Mauro's behaviour. I figured that if he really liked me, he would have called within the first 2 days after I gave him my number, but he never did. I went back to the cafe on Wednesday and asked for his number and he gave it immediately (I figure if he didn't want me to contact him, he would have said something like "you don't need it, I'll call you"). But later while he was cleaning up when they were closing, I would sneak glances at him and Juan said something like "you have a lot of passion when you look" and I said "I really like him...". Turns out Juan didn't know I liked Mauro till then (I thought giving him my number made it obvious?) and he seemed disappointed. Juan often flirted with me but Christine had told me that he's just naturally flirty so I took it with a grain of salt. But turns out Juan was interested and seemed disappointed when it turned out that Mauro was the one I wanted. I'm not interested in Juan - he's too old (36) and honestly, I think he's kinda ugly (looks like he doesn't know much about proper dental hygiene, yuck!). When it was time for Mauro to leave, he gave me the usual two-cheek kiss (I figured if he really liked me, he would have given me a real kiss by now?) and left. Juan kept trying to flirt with me, but I think I made it clear that it's Mauro I want. Then, I went home.
Yesterday, I sent Mauro a text message asking him if he wants to go for coffee that afternoon and he never responded. I actually worried that maybe he had given me a fake number, but then I decided to just bite the bullet once again and phone him myself. It wasn't a fake number and he seemed happy to talk to me. He's been busy lately (long work days, plus preparing to go to El Rocío) but said we can go for coffee next week. He's playing music at a private party in El Rocío so I can't go see him play, but we talked about meeting up some other time during the pilgrimage when he has a break or whatever. I also said I might drop by at the cafe that evening. But when I went (wearing that cute new dress he likes), they were closed and he was already gone. Juan was still there but I still kept my distance to avoid encouraging him. I figured if Mauro liked me, he would have made an effort to stick around till I arrived.
Ugh, I'm so stupid when it comes to trying to figure out men... This is why I don't understand why people think I should be glad I didn't date in school (supposedly, high school dating really sucks) - all the lessons I should have learned a long time ago, I have to learn now. And all the mistakes I should have made a long time ago, I end up making now. Mauro seemed to like me at first (which is why I was so hopeful after I gave him my number), but he's not making much of an effort to spend time with me and he hasn't even tried to kiss me yet. Yes, I know he's busy, but if I were in that situation, I would still make at least some effort to spend some time with someone I really like (I'm not expecting him to drop everything and sweep me off my feet, but still!). I don't know, maybe he's just playing games, or maybe Juan said or did something to make him lose interest... If anyone (especially my guyfriends) has any insight on this situation, please share it with me (fyi - the old "forget him, he's not worth it" stuff won't help - I want to know what's going on with his behaviour).
I asked a few classmates for advice. Neeru from England said to play it cool and ignore him for a bit. He'll miss me and come chasing after me after that. Evelyn from Holland said to be direct and ask if he likes me or not. I think I'll take the British approach for now. I've been direct all week and I think he needs a chance to miss me. Plus, I don't want to seem desperate. My British classmate said that being too eager to spend time with a guy might end up being a turn-off. So I won't contact him while I'm in El Rocío. If he calls me, great. If not, then I'll wait till next week. Maybe even show up at the cafe with a guyfriend like Nathan, Alex, or Antonio - if he thinks he's got competition maybe he'll be a little more eager! Well, we'll see...
I also found out today that one of my other classmates (from Switzerland) had a little fling with one of the male teachers in the flamenco school. She's 22 and he's 34 - he teaches the rhythm/clapping classes and I think he also teaches flamenco singing. He's a really good singer - when I took his course, I would clap out the beat and he'd sing along when I was doing it right.
Anyway, that's it for now!
I asked a few classmates for advice. Neeru from England said to play it cool and ignore him for a bit. He'll miss me and come chasing after me after that. Evelyn from Holland said to be direct and ask if he likes me or not. I think I'll take the British approach for now. I've been direct all week and I think he needs a chance to miss me. Plus, I don't want to seem desperate. My British classmate said that being too eager to spend time with a guy might end up being a turn-off. So I won't contact him while I'm in El Rocío. If he calls me, great. If not, then I'll wait till next week. Maybe even show up at the cafe with a guyfriend like Nathan, Alex, or Antonio - if he thinks he's got competition maybe he'll be a little more eager! Well, we'll see...
I also found out today that one of my other classmates (from Switzerland) had a little fling with one of the male teachers in the flamenco school. She's 22 and he's 34 - he teaches the rhythm/clapping classes and I think he also teaches flamenco singing. He's a really good singer - when I took his course, I would clap out the beat and he'd sing along when I was doing it right.
Anyway, that's it for now!